Reconnecting with the Lost Parts of Ourselves.

In the quiet aftermath of deep relaxation—whether from a sound healing session with a singing bowl, a meditative astral journey, or simply a moment of profound stillness—we sometimes sense that not all of us is fully present. Parts of our soul may have quietly slipped away long ago, carrying fears, guilts, or burdens from past wounds. These fragmented pieces don't vanish; they hide, waiting for a gentle invitation to return.

This idea resonates deeply with a passage from my book Revelations of a Singing Bowl, where I explore the profound need to reconnect with suppressed or "run-away" aspects of the self:
"There is a need for us to get in touch with parts of our soul that may have “run away” or suppressed themselves due to some traumatic event or misunderstanding. I went back into my deepest memories and found times in my life where I had taken a different fork in the road due to events that affected me deeply. I learned to forgive the various parts of me that were hiding with their fears and guilts, real or imagined and welcomed them back into my heart."

In my own experience, I sat with my 9 year-old self who had, in her innocence and fear, perceived herself to be accountable for something beyond her control; I envisioned her now sitting on my lap, my explaining that what had occurred was what was meant to be and to forgive herself, hence forgiving myself so as to put that event to rest.

This vivid inner dialogue captures the essence of what many spiritual traditions call soul retrieval or inner child healing—a compassionate process of locating, forgiving, and reintegrating those exiled parts so we can feel whole again.

Understanding Soul Fragmentation and Loss

Across shamanic traditions (practiced for thousands of years worldwide), trauma—whether a single shocking event, ongoing neglect, or even subtle misunderstandings in childhood—can cause parts of our essence to dissociate as a survival mechanism. These "lost" pieces might hold intense emotions like shame, or self-blame, leaving us with a lingering sense of emptiness, disconnection, or recurring patterns that feel hard to shake.
In modern psychology, this overlaps with concepts like the inner child (the vulnerable, authentic self from our early years) and approaches such as Internal Family Systems (IFS), where we dialogue with "exiled" parts to bring them back into harmony. The goal isn't erasure but embrace: acknowledging the pain, offering understanding, and welcoming the part home with love.
My own daytime out-of-body experience during an Access Bars session felt like a glimpse of this freedom—my spirit sighing in relief as it briefly stepped away from earthly constraints. Yet, true wholeness often requires going further: not just floating free, but intentionally turning toward those hidden fragments and saying, "It's safe to come back now."

The Power of Forgiveness in Reconnection

Forgiveness here isn't about excusing harm—it's about releasing the hold that old stories have on us. In the passage, forgiving the 9-year-old self dissolves the illusion of accountability for things beyond control. This act of self-compassion ripples outward, healing the adult who still carries that child's burden.Common signs that fragmented parts are calling for attention include:Chronic feelings of "not being fully here"Unexplained sadness, anger, or shame that seems disproportionateRepeating self-sabotaging patternsA deep longing for something indefinableWhen we approach these with gentleness, the return can feel like coming home to ourselves.

Tying it to Astral Travel and Beyond

Interestingly, astral experiences can sometimes facilitate this work naturally. In the astral plane, where boundaries dissolve, we may encounter symbolic representations of our younger selves or lost parts, offering opportunities for dialogue and retrieval. My own OBE felt like a preview of release—perhaps the first step toward inviting those hidden fragments to follow.
Whether through shamanic soul retrieval, inner child reflection, or personal journeys like those shared in Revelations of a Singing Bowl, the message is the same: We are worthy of wholeness. No part of us is too broken to be loved back home.
~ in quiet inclination ML

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